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Activities August 13, 2022 Man’s Controlling Behavior Rine's_—-Believe It or Not! Still Dominates Ex’s Life Zs St HE. of cheating with. (He did that contention we don’t know how Dear Abby with any man I knew) I really to solve. I like a firm mattress. like Darren and can see a fu- She likes a soft mattress. We WERE SOME ture with him. He treats my bought an adjustable bed, so DEAR ABBY: I was married OF THE FIRST PEOPLE IN for almost 20 years to a jeal- daughter great and doesn’t ous, controlling man. “Pete” mind that when we go out she each of us could fine-tune the THE WORLD TO HAVE was emotionally abusive, settings to our desired comfort MANDATORY EDUCATION has to tag along. which I didn’t really notice be- level. FOR ALL CHILDREN, Pete is now saying that if I cause I'm not confrontational. Ithas been a month now, and I would just try to make him date Darren, it’s proof that I Thate the new mattress. I just THAT IS INVISIBLE TO REGARDLESS OF cheated on him. I don’t want happy and ignore his control- my ex to think for a minute cannot get comfortable. It’s so HUMAN Eves! GENDER OR SOCIAL ling behavior. Toward the end that our marriage ended be- bad I find myself sleeping in STATUS, of our marriage, I realized how cause I cheated, because it’s not another room just to catch a isolated I had become. I had true. So I broke up with Darren good night's rest. As you can pushed most of my friends and because I refuse to accept him imagine, sleeping apart causes family away. They didn’t want being labeled as the person anxiety between us, and it has to visit because of Pete’s nega- who broke up my marriage. been confusing and stressful tive attitude. What would you do? -- KEEP- Our daughter developed an ING THE STORY STRAIGHT for our animals. How do you illness in her teens that re- propose we solve this in a way quires 24-hour care. Her illness DEAR KEEPING: What that restores peace in our rela- didn’t necessarily upset him; would I do? I would, once and tionship? - YAWNING IN ARI- what did upset him is the at- for all, quit allowing my ex ZONA tention she would require in to control me! I'd call Darren the future. He would say things and talk with him about why I DEAR YAWNING: Pay a visit like, “She’s ruining our retire- ended the relationship and ask to the store from which you ment. I was looking forward to if he would consider resuming purchased that adjustable bed having you to myself and not where the two of us left off. If and find out if you need a les- having to deal with anyone.” he is willing, I would move for- son or two on how to operate ‘This was when I realized how ward. However, if he isn’t, Id the mattress correctly. (You controlling he was. It felt like find a licensed psychotherapist won't be the first, trust me on I had been wearing a blindfold who could give me the tools to and then I could finally see. I avoid my ex’s manipulations in that.) If your discomfort per- immediately filed for divorce. the future. sists, sell the bed and replace it A year afterward, I started with two twin- or queen-sized Crossword seeing an old friend I'll call DEAR ABBY: My partner and mattresses so you and your “Darren,” someone my hus- I have a wonderful relation- partner can at least share the ACROSS band had often accused me ship, but there is one area of same room. 1 Agrand 5 — renewal YOUR Definition Y WELL, 10 Arizona tribe TENO)KA TENNER) §=6EENMM£) POR FINDS) EINE! CNME 14 Not theirs 15 Squawk TV/e ON BN|O|L} 3/1 BBN] V|uls 16 Bad sign S|/3/71/D/\OBBS|y/O/S| 1 |ALalv __ Get Fuzzy 17 Far East nanny EINE! 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