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10 April 21, 2021 Activities Man wants to quit trying after wife’s multiple miscarriages Dear Abby been through a wrenching time, and your loving husband want this to be a problem with him, and I don’t know how to is reluctant to see you continue get him to see that it’s nor- DEAR ABBY: My husband to suffer as you have been. You mal for people to go and have and I have had a total of six and your husband should talk fun as friends. My friends are miscarriages -- one before our to the fertility specialist who classmates of mine, both male miracle son and five since we helped your friend. However, and female, and younger than I began trying for a second child if more treatment is unsuc- am. One of them is gay. I have more than two years ago. cessful, it will be time for you I always wanted a boatload explained that as well to my to seek a referral to a licensed of children, but my husband boyfriend. Am I overthinking psychotherapist who can help and I agreed on two before we this as a potential problem or is got married. Now he wants to you cope with your disappoint- ment and loss. this truly a red flag? -- CATCH- call it quits. He doesn’t want ING IT NOW IN CALIFORNIA to keep trying because he sees Because you can’t escape the the emotional toll each loss feeling that someone is miss- ing, perhaps you might consid- DEAR CATCHING IT: You has on me. I want to get a sec- er using a surrogate, fostering are not overthinking anything, ond opinion from a fertility specialist who helped a friend or adopting a child who needs and yes, this is a red flag -- not with similar issues. a loving home and family. a potential one. The person you The only way I know how to have described appears to be so describe the way I feel is that DEAR ABBY: I have been insecure that any activity you it feels as though “someone” is single for almost three years. I have that doesn’t include him missing from our family. I ache recently started dating a man is perceived as a threat. The and long for and miss that per- who, I have realized over the longer you remain involved son, even though I’ve never past few weeks, has a problem with this person, the harder met them. I know deep in my with me spending time with he will try to socially isolate soul, that they are supposed to friends without him. I have ex- you. Please do not allow that to be here. Missing them doesn’t plained that it is a healthy and happen. End it now. mean I love my husband and normal thing to have friends son any less. But as much as and to go do things with them. I have explained that he has Dear Abby is written by Abi- I love those two, I also miss nothing to worry about be- gail Van Buren, also known that person. What should my husband and I do? -- CHAL- cause I am respectful of our as Jeanne Phillips, and was Crossword LENGED IN TEXAS relationship and a faithful girl- founded by her mother, Pau- friend. I have also begun to no- line Phillips. Contact Dear DEAR CHALLENGED: tice that he has no friends. Abby at www.DearAbby.com or Current puzzle answers Please accept my heartfelt I have told him he is coming P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, sympathy. Clearly you have across as controlling. I don’t CA 90069. Get Fuzzy Garfield Dilbert Drabble Dailies Pearls Before Swine